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Steph Curry's wife is facing backlash for her comments in support of modesty
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'Modesty shaming' is a serious problem; women didn't fight for equality to be forced into another corner, Mic reported. - photo by Herb Scribner
Current NBA MVP Steph Curry is living the dream right now as his Golden State Warriors have had a record 22-0 start to the season. On Sunday Curry scored 28 points 16 alone in the third quarter after two straight games in which he scored 40 points.

Currys wife, though, has had a rough go of things recently.

On Saturday night, Ayesha Curry tweeted about the importance of dressing modestly, and it didnt sit well with many on social media.

It came off a little more like a harmless, if unsolicited opinion than it did a pointed chiding, said USA Todays For The Win sports blog. It wasnt like she told any one person that she couldnt believe their parents let them leave the house like that. Nevertheless, a lot of people ripped Curry for dated views, coming after her and her opinions about what is and isnt classy directly on Twitter.

Even her husband was surprised by the reaction. Steph Curry defended his wife, saying she was only expressing her clothing preferences and not casting judgment on anyone, For The Win reported.

The backlash against Ayesha Curry and her tweets may be the latest example in modesty shaming or the pressure for women to be more and more open with sexuality and where people shame women who align with more traditional behavior, according to Mics Jordan Ecarma.

Ecarma brings up Selena Gomez as an example. Gomez was a Disney actress who said in the past that she felt pressure to be more proactive and open with her sexuality, even if it went against her beliefs of dressing modestly, Mic reported.

Another example, according to Ecarma, is Taylor Swift, who, despite her decision to embrace a pure and more wholesome lifestyle, is often called out for not being more open about her sexuality.

'Modesty shaming' is a serious problem; women didn't fight for equality to be forced into another corner, Mic reported.

Teaching modesty can be difficult, though, since it inherently includes discussions about immodesty, which can lead to people body shaming immodest dressers, Christianity Today reported:

Is there a way to take on the fashion industry, or Hollywood, or any aspect of our culture that sexualizes young girls, without vilifying the very bodies we are striving to protect? Is there a way to teach our daughters to be modest, without covering them in shame? How can we, as the Body of Christ, talk about modesty without demonizing women?

The answer to that question is still unclear, but Lexi Herrick, a blogger for The Huffington Post, says its best not to demonize a woman for wearing clothes in a different style than you. Rather, its better to support a womans choice to wear what she wants, as long as she feels comfortable with her own clothing decision and her own beauty, Herrick wrote.

We can't change society overnight, and so much time and money has already been allocated to superficial and shallow values that make us dangerously focused on appearance, Herrick wrote. What we can change is the confidence that we have in our own perception of our bodies, and the way we choose to show that to others.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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