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Adults share sexts despite expectaton they'll be private, study finds
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It's likely single adults underestimate the likelihood that the personal, intimate photos they send each other will be shared with others, a new study finds. Indiana University researchers found one-fourth are shared, despite expectations of privacy. - photo by Lois M Collins
Sexting is an area where reality and expectations concerning privacy may be at odds, according to a new study on the challenges of relationships in a digital age.

While it's likely most single adults who send explicit messages or images believe their "sexts" will be private, about one-fourth of recipients share them with others, according to research led by Indiana University.

"Although findings revealed strong discomfort with unauthorized sharing of sexts beyond the intended recipient, sharing behavior was fairly widespread," according to the study "Sexting among singles in the USA: Prevalence of sending, receiving and sharing sexual messages and images." It was published online last week in the journal Sexual Health.

People of all ages are struggling to figure out how to integrate their personal lives with technology, said Justin R. Garcia, assistant professor of gender studies and associate director for research and education at Indiana University's Kinsey Institute, who led the research. "There's a lot of talk about sexting as a big problem, but there's evidence that for some it might be part of normal sexual development in a new technological era. But one of the real risks is nonconsensual sharing. We wanted to know how much risk is perceived and how much is real."

For the study, the researchers looked at how 5,805 adult singles from age 21 to older than age 75 send, receive and share sexts, using data from the Singles in America study sponsored by Match.com. Teens were not included, nor were people who are married, although most of those in the study had previously been married or in serious relationships, Garcia told the Deseret News. Some were parents.

Sexts are text messages containing explicit photographs or messages of a sexual nature.

Of those studied, one-fifth overall had sent sexual messages and 28 percent said they'd received them. The numbers were somewhat lower for sexual images 16 percent for senders and 23 percent for receivers.

Nearly three-fourths of those sexting said they expected the message to be seen exclusively by the person they sent it to and would be uncomfortable if it was shared. But nearly one-fourth of those who received a sext did share it with an average of three friends.

Two views

In most cases, the sexting was between couples who were already together in a relationship, Garcia said. Message senders typically used them to "flirt" with a partner. Sexting was more common with younger adults than with older adults. Women were more likely to sext "a current partner v. potential partner than were men," the study said, as were heterosexual participants compared to others.

As sexting has become more common, experts are divided on the degree to which it is harmful, citing various factors like the age of those involved. A 2012 study in Pediatrics found that teens who sext, for example, are seven times more likely to engage in risky sex. And a study by Internet Watch Foundation, a web safety organization, said that most of the time people who sext "lose control" of the images, which are frequently hijacked for use by porn websites.

Whether an expert considers risque messages and images to be risky business or a normal expression of relationships in a digital world, there's broad agreement that unauthorized sharing of what was intended to be private is concerning.

Society is still trying to define whether that type of sharing is more than a breach of trust, said Garcia. When it comes to passing around sexual messages among adults, it's not necessarily clear whether it's just tacky or it should be criminal. When kids are involved, "it's a whole other kettle of fish and, depending on age, can fall under child pornography laws. That's a complex legal question. Plus people are concerned about children's development and issues of gender and sexuality. "

Although much of the research on sexting has centered around minors, it's a practice that has been growing among adults, including senior citizens, who AARP recently noted like to keep it private.

Future harm?

Some participants worry about the consequences of sexting for their social lives, careers and psychosocial well-being even as they participated in sexting behaviors, the study said. "These findings point to a seeming paradox wherein sexting is becoming more prevalent and normative despite a sense of heightened risk and concern about the implications for privacy and well-being."

That didn't surprise Garcia, who said that "people can do things they know are risky. Just knowing doesn't mean they don't do it." In the case of the very-personal messages, though, he said perception was the risk is not too great. "They weren't sending them to strangers. It was risk, but in a context they think is not that big.

"Unfortunately, what we see is that almost one in four people have violated that trust," he added.

Unexpected sharing is not the only way private messages can become public. Mashable reported on findings by an England-based company, Recombu, that 47 percent of adults in England send texts to their significant others and nearly 10 percent had misdirected a "not suitable for work" message.

Garcia said younger people are less likely to worry about future consequences of sexting than are older people. The study found that those between age 60 and 74 were most apt to perceive risk to career, reputation or relationships.

Men found unauthorized sharing less disturbing than women did, the study said.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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