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5 tips to help your child uncover their talents
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Every parent wants their child to grow as a successful person. Here's how to help them. - photo by Norman Arvidsson
God has given every child the gift of talents that they can share with the world. When your child discovers their special gifts, not only do they find something that makes them special, but they gain a better understanding of what God has in store for them. As a mother, one of the best gifts that you can give your child is helping them to discover what gifts God has given to them.

1. Remind your children to pray for guidance and to give thanks

As a parent, your job in this process is to be a coach, mentor and guide. But rather than issuing directives, the best thing that you can do is to pray and to encourage your child to do the same. Your child may not know where they are headed, but you can tell them that God has a plan.

2. Dont focus solely on the superstar talents

When you think of talents, do you picture amazing musical talents or the ability to accomplish great athletic feats? If you do, you're not alone. After all, who hasnt dreamed about having the talent to become a professional athlete, entertainer or musician, especially if that brings fame? However, the vast majority of people arent going to become pro athletes or other types of celebrities. So, be on the lookout for other skills as well. Perhaps your child is a natural leader, a talented cook, or somebody with a special talent in math or science. Maybe your child is a gifted designer.

3. Encourage your children to try many things

One of the best ways to identify your childs talents is to simply encourage them to participate in a variety of activities. Then, support their efforts. The more things that they are able to try, the more their talents will come to the surface. Even when it becomes clear that they are not suited for a hobby or an activity, they will still gain important social skills and build character in the process.

4. Stop being so serious

Parenting is serious business. You are tasked with raising your child to know Gods love, to become a good person, and to find their path. However, while you are doing all of this, you cannot lose sight of the fact that childhood is also supposed to be fun. Yes, you want to help your child uncover their gifts, but that doesnt mean that the pursuit of these things must constantly be serious. Play, laugh and enjoy your child. Their talents will appear more readily than they would if you treat this job as something that is somber and serious all of the time.

5. Remember that this is about them

It can be very tempting to turn this process into a pursuit of your own dreams via your child. Its natural to want your own dreams to be theirs as well. But you must put those tendencies aside and remember that it is your job to help your child find their own talents, and to support them along the way.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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