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19 things men need to know about their wife's new mommy body
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Youre both in for some major changes and not only because youre now in charge of a tiny human. - photo by Amberlee Lovell
Watching your wife become a mommy is the most beautiful experience, but youre both in for some major changes and not only because youre now in charge of a tiny human being.

Pregnancy and motherhood obviously changed her body, and those changes will have a huge effect on you. These are some things you need to be aware of:

Her belly wont be flat

Even after the baby is out, the uterus still weighs about two and a half pounds, and will take several weeks to shrink down to its regular size. Once its back to normal, its normal to have stretched skin, and stomach flab.

Shell be incredibly sore

Her body has gone through quite the ordeal. Shell need to rest, and let the vaginal or incision area heal.

She might stop snoring

If pregnancy gave her a heavy dose of snoring, theres great news: It will likely stop after the baby is born.

She feels ugly

Its discouraging for her to lose the body she once had, worked hard for and was familiar with. Seeing something unusual when she looks in the mirror can be depressing.

Shell be amazed by her strength

As discouraged as she might be about how she looks, she is so grateful for her amazing body! It grew and delivered her perfect baby!

Her emotions are unpredictable

Even with all the joy and happiness that comes from a new baby, her plunging hormones may leave her with postpartum baby blues. It causes mood swings, anxiety, difficulty sleeping and crying spells. In some moms this develops into a more severe, long-lasting form called postpartum depression.

She actually can get pregnant

Breastfeeding is not a foolproof form of birth control, and even before her period starts up again, it's possible to get pregnant.

She doesnt have much desire for sex

Feeling ugly, being sore, the memory of such recent pain, exhaustion from a new baby, becoming a parent, and having a dramatic drop in estrogen levels may kill her desire to be intimate. It can take about a year for her drive to return, according to Dr. Hope Ricciotti.

Her cramps arent over

Shell cramp for the next few days as her uterus shrinks back to its regular size.

You might need to take her shoe shopping

Some womens feet are up to half a size larger after they have a baby.

And clothes shopping

Shell only feel fatter if she is trying to squeeze into her pre-pregnancy pants. Use this as an excuse to let her buy some cute new clothes that dont leave her crying in frustration each time she tries to zip them.

Shell produce milk, even if not breastfeeding

When her milk comes in, her breasts could be in a lot of pain. If shes not breastfeeding, eventually her milk will go away, but breast engorgement will happen until it stops.

Shell have a smaller cup size in the long run

Although larger when the milk comes in, after its gone, her breasts will most likely be smaller and a little saggier whether or not she breastfed. They can also have stretch marks.

Mesh underwear is a thing

There are a lot of things her body has to get rid of right after birth. Hospitals give mesh underwear for her to wear to make this clean-up less awkward. Dont be surprised if she asks to take extra pairs home they feel a lot more comfortable to her post-pregnant body than regular underwear.

Shell shed a lot

As her estrogen levels drop after pregnancy, her hair will start falling out. This can last anywhere from one to four months. It usually returns back to normal after six months.

Shell have incredible endurance

Seeing her step up to motherhood will awe you. Regardless of how little sleep shes had, how much pain shes experienced, or how much stress shes pushing through, shell go to all lengths to protect your new little one.

Stretch marks are there to stay

She just grew a human body inside of her. Are you surprised?

Peeing is painful

Everything in that area is tender. Sometimes urinary tract infections can also occur, creating a burning sensation when urinating.

Her body wont return to "normal"

Bodies shift in order to have a baby. While she can exercise and eat right, her clothes may never fit exactly how they did before.

This is her new normal. Help her love it. If you praise and love her body, it can help her find herself again in her new skin.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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