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11 reasons to love your husband even more after you've had a baby
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Your hubby just gets better once you've had a kid. - photo by Melinda Fox
It's impossible for your relationship not to change after you've had a baby. Your time is different, another person enters your relationship and it's common for women to report feeling negatively towards their husband as an effect of postpartum depression. But with a whole slew of new challenges (many of which can be negative experiences), there are also some great new things about your husband.

Here is a list of some things that makes your husband even better after you've had a baby:

1. He deals with poop every day

How can you not love a guy who gets into the nitty-gritty? Spit up all over the walls and leaking diapers are no match for your superman.

2. He still thinks you're beautiful

You might have stretch marks, have gone from wielding a beach ball in your abdomen to extra skin, and maybe you've made almost zero efforts in the way of personal hygiene in the past few days, but he still thinks you are beautiful.

3. He's the man you want your son to become

You feel so lucky that your children have an amazing example to follow. You hope that your sons will grow up to be just as amazing as him, and that your daughters will use him to measure men against.

4. He loves that you're a mom

He cherishes you for everything you went through to have a child, he feels blessed that you made him a dad, and he just thinks you're amazing for wanting to raise a child.

5. He wakes up in the middle of the night

Even at 2 in the morning, he gets up, changes a diaper and rocks your little one to sleep. How can you not love him for doing that fatherly service?

6. You've created someone together

Now you're not only bonded by marriage vows, but you're bonded through giving life and the responsibility of nurturing it. It's awesome to see your nose and his dimples on your little one.

7. He thinks you're the best

He doesn't think anyone could do a better job of parenting a child than you, and he tells you so.

8. He makes time for you

You should know that there's just about time for nothing right now. Your little one sucks up just about all you've got. But he still makes time to serve you, kiss you, and all over make you feel loved.

9. He makes silly faces

The silly contortions of your hubby's face might be for the baby's benefit but you are definitely reaping the rewards. He can make you crack up as he turns into a total goof in front of your child.

10. He supports you

Your husband doesn't leave you alone in this parenting business. The two of you are a team and work together to care for an infant, which makes your relationship so many times better.

11. He's a father

He's not just a husband; he's a dad.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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